family vent. am I being selfish?

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I'm 8 months pregnant and apparently the only one in my family with a valid license. On my days off of work I do not want to be driving people around but when I say no they act like I'm just the most inconsiderate person ever.

I'm tired! That's all. And I have to waddle around at work 5 days a week. I'd like to be unbothered on my days off. I don't understand why grown people don't have a reliable source of transportation. It's so annoying. And it'd be different if I could say no without them throwing a fit and calling me selfish. I really wanna know who they're gonna bug when this baby is here because it won't be me. 😑

I don't mind it SOMETIMES. But if you give an inch they want a mile. I am not a personal driver.

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They'd still ask even if you just had the baby.

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Tell them to call uber.

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No way lady you need to rest on your days off!!

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I didn't drive until recently and had two kids. Everyone did so much for me that it doesn't bother me driving everyone around to return the favours. I'm 35 weeks pregnant and my car broke down this evening, the hospital is an hour away and I feel like crying! I've a hospital appointment tomorrow as well as getting the kids to school and playschool and I'm so fortunate that people are Willing to help me out. Hopefully those people you are helping out will be able to help you in return one day.

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Tell them last time you checked you weren't a taxi. They need to get their licenses. It's not your problem.

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Why don't they have their licenses? Are they just expired, or is it legal troubles? Either way, they won't be motivated to get their license back if they have a personal driver. So, in the long run, you're not really helping them. You're a much better woman than I am, though. I'm far too lazy for unnecessary driving.

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Don't do something your uncomfortable with especially driving around town tired they need to understand that's putting you and baby in danger ! I'm so tire of reading stories of ppls families/husbands/in laws being so unsupportive and intrusive to pregnant women and new mothers, all you hear is how annoying pregnant women are but seriously now that I'm pregnant I see the truth it's everyone around us that becomes annoying and inconsiderate!

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No you're not being selfish.  You aren't their mother!

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I have family that was constantly always asking for rides until I complained to one relitive then they sort of stop asking unless it's an emergency then I do take them. But yeah it was so annoying like I'm 8 months what are you guys going to do when the baby is here? I'm definitely not driving anyone anywhere with my newborn.

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Honestly just say no yes they will be childish about it and make you feel bad but maybe they will in  time get off there bottoms and get a licence you hve enough on your plate keep saying no it's really unfair on you xxxx

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