A complete beginner's guide for first time Anal sex!!!👍🙌👋🏻💩👈🏻👀💋💋🎉🎉

This is a very basic guide for someone who is curious about anal sex and wants to prepare for it. 

Who ? what ? why ?

Hi, I am a 30 something guy living in USA. One lifetime partner of 12 years, married for 4 yrs, no kids. I like anal sex and i read about various queries people have. So i decided to compile a small guide. This is by all means, not intended to be the most thorough comprehensive guide ever..... the more you google, the more you'll find...... I have tried and tested everything that i have written here on my self, because i promised my wife, I wont do anything to you that i i cant take myself. 

Basics : you will need the following

- a desire to explore anal sex. if you dont like it, stop here and close this.... if you are thinking about it..... go ahead and take the plunge.

- a healthy asshole..... seriously.. no kidding.... if you have hemorrhoids or fistula or std or long standing constipation or diarrhea or infections , think twice before doing anything

- free time and private space..... this is not a quickie and can get messy at times

- lube.... lot of it......... again LUBE.... lots of it...... the best is lube... no spit / coconut oil / moisturizing cream / vaseline.... especially important if you are with a partner

- anal training butt plug set... find one on amazon or your favorite sex store.... go for the most simple most basic one, like a Doc Johnson..... time for fancy will come later. it is basically a set of 3 conical shaped devices that are made of good quality (usually plastic) and will have one small medium and large each. if you buy a good quality butt plug set from market, it has a neck and a wide base..... the wide base helps to prevent it from going inside completely and 'getting lost' .... the most common reason people go to the emergency room..... saying that they accidentally slipped on the floor and "fell down" on the beer bottle or cucumber

-gloves may be useful if you are extra concerned for poop and cleanliness - optionally, vibrator etc if you wish.

Cleanliness :

Poop comes out.... everyone knows that. so you gotta make sure you are clean and so is anything that goes up.... fingers.. toys.. plugs.. warm soap water cleaning is fine for the exterior... as for the interior.... you dont need to starve yourself and take massive shitting enemas.... for the first few times, especially when you are practicing by yourself..... make sure you are not loaded with poop and/or loaded with food. a few hours after eating and after pooping is a good time.... the rectal vault is usually empty, if by any chance, you do find poop, it might be just a speckle, just wash it and try again.... for the big day, eat light and give yourself a tap water enema if you are really concerned about it ( usually not required )..... there are kits available on amazon and your sex store....... The nerves is your anus and rectum are programmed in such a way that any movement will give you a sensation of poop coming out, however , it wont be true every time, 99 % of times you will be empty from below

The Act itself :

The first advice is to understand what happens. your rectum not like vagina, so doesnt automatically open up like a flower when you are excited. It has 2 set of muscles, outer one, that you can see and is in your control, and the inner one thats about 2 cm inside, that you cant see and it isnt in your direct control ( this is the one that causes the pain when people think that outer one is relaxed and treat it as a green light). you can relax the outer muscles easily by just 'letting go'. inner one is a little tricky. the trick is to breathe out while you try to push something in, helps relax inner sphincter. secondly, use lube. a lot of it. so first of all relax and find a quiet alone place to do it. try to relax your anal muscles. make sure you are sexually aroused (horny). watch a porn or start masturbating, whatever works for you. then use some lube and try circling your finger around the asshole to start making it relaxed. then after some time, gradually start poking the asshole with one finger, you will find the finger goes in like a centimeter, thats good. then pull it out, then insert it again, try to work your way upto the first knuckle only.... try to let your body understand how it feels when something goes up there , then in some time, go deeper, to the second knuckle... and then the third knuckle...... then try to do in and out with that finger only...... its gonna take some time but slowly your body will stop feeling violated and surprised with that one finger...... then its time to start introducing your body to the second finger..... one knuckle at a time, then repeat the process and after some time, use ( or you may choose to skip it ) a third finger....... once you are comfortable with these 3 fingers, time for the small size butt plug...... lube and introduce it gradually ..... with the same in and out rocking motion that you used with fingers....... gradually push it in and take it out , going deeper every time..... DONT FORGET 2 THINGS, TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND LET IT GO AND PUSH IT WHILE BREATHING OUT AND DONT FORGET LUBE........... Gradually in about half hour , your body will feel like it can take the small butt plug in.... when that happens, keep on advancing it in, till it actually goes in and gets stuck and stays in place (by stuck i dont mean stuck and you now have to go to the emergency room as described above.... by stuck i mean securely tight )...... if you are adventurous, get up from the bed and try walking around with it.... the movement will excite you and make your body used to the butt plug..... keep it in for like 10-15 minutes..... and then take it out...... let your ass hole heal...... give it like another 10-15 minutes and try the same thing.... repeat for 2 times and then you are done for the day...... this is important because you wanna prepare for a beautiful adventure that lies ahead and not for a one time painful anal rape encounter...... let your body heal, dont overdo it. the next day, start again with the finger, then 2 and then the small butt plug......keep it in for some time... try to keep it longer than the first day..... and then walk around or try to do your daily activities, but this time you will have the butt plug in...... may be 15-20 minutes and then take it out again...... Let your body rest for like half hour and put it back again. Do it 3-4 times today. Then let your asshole rest. Now repeat today's activities for the next 3-5 days till your body gets used to it, each time making the butt plug stay longer. After the third or the fifth day, move up to the medium size and follow the same guide. Remember to breathe and use lube as before. Lots of it. If it gets dry, take it out and apply more lube. So , all in all, by the end of 5th to 7th day, you should be prepared for a beautiful experiences....... whats the use of the large one - if you are feeling extra adventurous or your man is REALLY big, you might wanna take a few extra days to get used to that....

Good luck folks

Important :

- patience is the key, dont rush it

- do it only if you want to try it, not because someone tries to force you, however i will say this, its foolish to be against something as good as this without trying it

- LUBE LUBE LUBE

- good quality butt plug, no cucumbers please

- if your sex life sky rockets after this , i take full responsibility.

- i have tried to be accurate however if your ass hurts because you did not follow all of the above correctly, or your sex life starts to suck, i dont take any responsibility :)

- this is my first draft, i will try to answer whatever questions you might have individually... questions that come up all the time, will add them as FAQ's

- again it's just a beginner's guide. An attempt to introduce people how to prepare for it and how good and non traumatizing it can be.... Not a complete guide.... There are more detailed websites blog posts and forums dedicated to it. 

- if you like it, share it on glow, comment here, keep this discussion alive, so that others may also benefit from this. And your encouragement keeps me going. 

- enjoy... :)