Should I be embarrassed to tell my boyfriend about my anxiety and depression?

Question

So long story short I've gone through a lot of pretty bad shit in my life and as a result I have pretty bad depression and anxiety. Sometimes I even have suicidal thoughts (have never acted on them) and today I just got the worst news and I've been crying for like an hour straight, I'm so miserable and overwhelmed. I want to tell my boyfriend everything but I'm so embarrassed. I always have problems opening up to people and I'm scared my boyfriend will think I'm crazy or get scared off (we've known eachother for 3 years, dating for 2). Is it normal to mention downs like this in a relationship or are you just supposed to keep it hidden? He's my first serious boyfriend but I always pretend like I'm happy as could be and have everything together when I really don't. Any advice? :(

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You're in a relationship to help each other no matter how bad it is, no matter how embarrassing, he should always be willing to hold your hand through everything. Considering y'all have been together for two years says he probably already knows you better than you think. Tell him, he will be there for you and if he isn't then he isn't the one

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I tried to hide my depression from my boyfriend for a while but it got tough when I got out of bed half asleep because I forgot to take one of two antidepressants I'm currently on, and then again in the morning when I took the other one. 
Mine was actually really amazing about it. He understands mental illness and how common it actually is. 
He was incredibly accepting and loving about it. Especially when I got some terrible news one day and completely broke down in front of him which is something I've never done with another person. 
I was surprised how cool he was with everything and how well he handless me in that state. If you're with the right guy he'll be understanding about it and hopefully be willing to do whatever it takes to be by your side and help you through the rough patches

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I think if he's your boyfriend, you should be able to share that information with him. Not even a month into the relationship with my boyfriend, I told him I was sexually abused as I was having troubles at that time with nightmares and flashbacks. I didn't want to hide something from him that was affecting me, as it would only make it worse on my end. He was, and still is super supportive of what happened. He didn't push for details, just consoled that he would be there to comfort and listen during tough times. Having him know made me feel so much better as if i was ever having a hard time he wasn't looking at me like i was crazy, he already knew that I needed his support. :)

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i relate and i think if you're comfortable enough to tell him, you should. it's not easy being with a person with anxiety and/or depression because we can get a lot of mood swings or get super anxious over small things and if you see a future with him, he should know so he knows that sometimes you get sad and it's not always going to be his fault. i genuinely think you should tell him when you don't have to ask strangers off the internet if you should or not. tell him when you feel like you trust him the most and he can listen to you.

Should I be embarrassed to tell my boyfriend about my anxiety and depression?

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