Rape?

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Okay I see this a lot but I'm confused 
I was seeing this guy and I went out with him just to talk to him about how I don't think he treated me the way I wanted 
I told him no sex very clearly 
We were in him car and he got me in the back I stayed furthest away from him 
I said no sex very clearly but I let him finger me because he wanted to 
Again I still said no sex but he tried anyway and got on top of me even though I was saying no trying to stay calm and he still had sex with me even though I kept saying no
I went home and cried afterwards

I feel like rape is too strong a word and don't feel like I deserve to call it that 
Was this rape 
Sorry it's long

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I don't mean this to be offensive at all, but how wasn't it rape? You said no sex and he still had sex with you, that is rape! It doesn't matter that you let him finger you, you could have let him have sex with you and the second you say 'stop' it becomes rape.

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If you said no and he did it anyway yes it was rape

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Yes, that was rape.

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YES THIS IS RAPE! You said NO very clearly and DID NOT want sex. He forced himself on you even if you let him finger you. Call the police, report him. Nobody should force sex upon you and you can't let him get away with it.

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You told him no. You did not concent. It die not matter if you let him finger you or anything else. You didn't want to have sex with him and you told him that. You need to go get a rape kit and save you're clothes you were wearing. Babe you didn't deserve this and don't punish yourself for it. It doesn't matter what you did nor what you wore. No means No. 💕

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This was 100% rape. Just because you let him finger you it does not mean you enthusiastically consented. It was rape by coercion.

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No means no. Period. It doesn't matter that you let him finger you. That was the farthest you were comfortable to go with him he should've stopped there. Sex without consent is rape. Bottom line.

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Omg!! Wheather or not she could've prevented this IS NOT RELEVANT! The literal definition of rape is sex without consent and based off of her story thats exactly what happened..I hope you get the help you need because I know this can't be easy especially with other women telling you that it's essentially your fault because you "could've prevented it" smh. Gross.

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If you didn't want to have sex with him and told him no than it was rape. 
Even if you let him kiss/finger/touch whatever it was still rape. 
Don't let anyone make you feel guilty over this, I'm seeing some comments making it seem like you give him a green light because you sat in the back seat and let him finger you. You made it very clear to him you didn't want to have sex and he pressured you into it. 
A woman can change her mind at any point and as soon as they say no the other person is supposed to respect that and stop. He didn't.

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Definitely rape, love. I'm so sorry

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