I need the works! 😂 I have lots of Q's

Liz • I`m a stay at home mom of my daughter Sophia ❤️. I`m married to a wonderful man and we live a wonderful life❤️
So I wanna TTC in January, but I'm being so technical about it. I had a miscarriage in march and it shattered me. I wasn't even TTC but it really shattered me. So my brain is being all technical and wanting to do everything in it's power to be more prepared this time around. 
I would like to know the following for the best for TTC if I can please! 
•1.) the best lubercant
•2.) the best prenatals and when to start them
•3.) when I should stop my birth control 
•4.) when I should stop my other medications (for PTSD) and if I should consult my doctor first 
•5.) all the TTC lingo (because I get so confused by it)
•6.) if I should get a physical and Pap smear before I start 
•7.) if I should see a OB before I start  
•8.) if they're any other apps that will help me keep track of my cycles
•9.) the best cheap pregnancy tests 
•10.) any other advice! I'm a very fluid and open minded women!
I know I'm asking a lot but I want to do it right! Thanks ❤️