I'm petrified to gave sex when the time comes.. I had a second degree tear and my midwife gave me the option to have stitches since it seemed borderline and naturally I chose not to. I had a homebirth and was sooo done with pain that I didn't want to go through stitches. I feel like I'm going to regret my decision. I felt down there yesterday and it just felt sooo different and I don't know if how it's supposed to feel post tear. I wanna curl up in a ball and cry all day!!