It's been almost three months since I had my daughter and my episiotomy finally healed. My husband and I have been trying theblast few days to have sex but it hurts so bad I can't do it. Is that normal? I just want to feel close to my husband again and I feel as though not being able to have sex is me failing as a wife somehow. He's super supportive and loving about the entire thing and is willing to take the time to get there it just upsets me that we can't. Any tips to help us out? We have lube and have been using that but it still kills me when he puts it in.