nervous about my MIL watching my son
So my son is currently 10 weeks old. I have only left him for a half hour to run to the store while my husband watched him. Now that my breast milk is a little more established we figure we can go out and I can just pump before and after, and during if we are there for more than four hours.
So we asked my MIL to watch our little one next week while we go to a friends "no kids allowed" birthday party.
Here's the thing my MIL holds the thought that what we do not know will not kill us.. I get that everyone raises their children differently and maybe I'll be different with my second child... but we do what works for us and have learned that if we do things differently and get him out of his schedule it's no good for anyone.
That being said I only have a few hard limits:no water or formula for the baby(I have plenty of frozen breast milk if she needs a back up to the bottles I made), when he wakes up he gets a diaper change and then has tummy time followed by a story before he eats. Then when he is asleep we put him down in his crib or pack and play so that he can get used to sleeping in it.
Needless to say she thinks it is fine to do tummy time after he eats.. he has really bad acid reflux and needs to be held upright for 20 minutes to avoid the majority of it coming up. She also has continued to just hold him while he sleeps. I understand wanting baby cuddles and wanting grandparent time, but when she does this we have the hardest time getting him to sleep in his bed at night. This leads to me getting very little sleep and being frustrated because I'm sleep deprived. Of course this isn't good and I try to catch up the next day but given that my little guy has started only taking two long naps (1-2hours) and a few short naps (10-15minutes) there's really no way to feel rested enough to where I do not feel out of it.
All in all, anything I say or do is not right in her eyes even though I am with him 24/7 and know his quirks. If I say he is just tired she disagrees and says he's hungry even if he literally just ate..
Sorry this is so long I just wanted to be detailed so that I can get accurate advice. Hopefully I didn't leave anything out. I just need advice on how to convey to her that she needs to do it my way or else she cannot watch him... so far it hasn't worked..
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