Insecure about my Labia? 😔

So, in short, my labia minora hangs outside of my labia majora, by like 2-3cm. When I am standing up you can see my clit and a little bit of my labia, and I'm super insecure about it. I have like a 'fat pussy', a kind of puffy clit and vulva. Every time I see one of my friends naked, I can't see any labia at all, no clit, nothing. It's just a neat looking little pocket pussy, but my labia protrudes and is so hard to hide! I recently called off a promising relationship because I didn't want him touching my vulva and being grossed out 😔😰 Even though he really wanted to give me head. I mean it doesn't cause me any discomfort but I think it looks ugly and is so just THERE. I'm so terrified of anyone seeing or touching me and it hurts me because emotionally I feel ready for sex and love (I'm 19 btw). How can I overcome this? Xx 😢🙁