is this harassment?

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Okay so in highschool this boy who I talked to once (Him: "can I borrow a pen?" Me: "yeah of course, keep it.") claimed he loved me and told everyone he knew he loved me. Then he made a giant scene and asked me to prom (where I am from we don't have proms for every grade like Americans do. We have grade 12 prom, that's it) it was very awkward and I had to turn him down because I was already going to prom with my girlfriend. Flash forward 2 years. 
For the past 5 months he has been messaging me on Facebook. Daily. Every day. It's been mostly one sided, at first I'd reply here and there but I felt like me replying gave him the wrongn impression because he would constantly ask me on dates. I made it more than clear that I wasn't interested and then just stopped replying. It's been 3 months now since I stopped replying and he is STILL messaging me daily. 
He's now taken it upon himself to figure it where and when I'm doing things and then message me about it. I don't post to my Facebook anymore because of this but he is still finding out where I am and what I'm doing. He also has messaged me saying "hey I think you changed your number I've been texting you" He has been texting the number listed on my Facebook which is from grade 6 and he has also started emailing me! 
He's created a scenario in his mind that we are together and is posting about it on his own Facebook. 
I don't know if this is harassment or what. I also don't know how to address this or what gave him this impression. 
I assumed after highschool he would drop it, I thought it was just immaturity but this is turning into a real problem and I'm worried when people tag me in things because he will know where I am in that moment. 
I don't want to be mean or do anything to extremely anger him, if I blocked him he would know. I can't just keep ignoring this though. I'm at the point where I want to delete my Facebook, make a new one under an alias and move out of my city (very small city, everyone knows everyone) 
 
Any suggestions?

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Yes it is and u should tell him clearly to stop it
And if continues report it and get restrainingorder against him

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This sounds like stalking! Police and mental health services are my bet x

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Yes, this sounds like harassment to me. I would send him one more message, letting him know that you're not interested and asking him to please stop contacting you.  Then I would block him. You don't want it to escalate into something worse. You need to protect yourself. He could be mentally ill, who knows.

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That is waaay more than Harassment. That is legit Stalking. I know it may feel scary to block him, but if you want your life back, that's the first step. It's not rude to block him if he's making your life miserable. I'd also probably document his behavior and go to the police. They can help you. Even if he hasn't done anything violent or out of character yet, going to the police would help you prevent that. I don't know if you ever see him in person anymore, but if you do, make sure your family and friends know what's going on and if he tries to talk to you again, tell him that his actions are making you feel uncomfortable and you don't like it. Tell him you want him to stop. Have someone with you so they can back you up in these situations, yet try not to let it get violent. Let him know that you're not interested and you never will be, make sure that he can't find loopholes--he might find them on his own through his own conspiracies, and if he does, that's a good moment to tell him that you're going to go to the police (or that you already have) because of his behavior.
Even if he hasn't been violent, always caution against that. If he's made up a world in his mind where you two are dating and you're not super creeped out and uncomfortable by his actions, there's a chance he may be not all there and he needs help. Getting yourself help from friends, family and the police, might just put him on the right path to getting himself help from professionals (if you're worried abt what the consequences are).

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I would block him in a heart beat. If he knows you're not interested blocking shouldn't be a problem and maybe that'll get the point accross. It does sound like harassment if he's following your every move. But you're letting him still have access to your page so you're not really doing much to prevent it.

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Ummm you know you can block him right?

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Oh and on the tagging you can change your setting to require permission before the tag is set. I have that set up so I know when people share pics of my kids.

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The kid sounds like. Loony toon. I would block him and if he asks you why you blocked him say I don't know what your talking about I deleted my Facebook sorry. I do that to people I can't stand or bug me all the time lmao.

is this harassment?

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