Help? Advice?

I've tried to turn my significant other on for the past 2 days and finally gave up and decided to masturbate. Sorry TMI. I thought I'd feel better but I feel mad, sad and disappointed that I had to take care of myself. :( I was curious if I'm the only one going through this? I've had plenty of talks with him about how it effects me and I still get no where... I'm a night owl and I have been wanting sex at bed time and he's a crab at bed time. I don't know how else to make any other time happen...