define "trying"

I went off birth control 1 year ago. In my mind, we have been "trying" to conceive. My periods are random (first was told pcos, then told hypothyroidism). In my mind I've been trying all along and constantly wondering if I'm prego and when I can take a prego test. In my husband's mind, we didn't start trying until this past month when I was ovulation kit testing and we had seen the fertility doc and had learned more about my diagnosis and his. He has low mobility and low form. I have irregular cycles due to hypothyroidism. In his mind, we are normal and can still have a normal conception/pregnancy.