UPDATE: Holidays with a newborn

I'm having a c-section this Friday at 39 weeks. I'm excited to meet him. I called all our family and friends 2-3 weeks ago to let the know since I'll be home the Monday of the week of Thanksgiving that Iwe decided to just stay home instead of trying to go out and visit. They all understood, which is a relief. Until my SIL and MIL called me asking what time to be here next thursday. Im like what.

I don't know how this turned into us hosting thanksgiving at our house. My SIL is coming on Tuesday to stay with me once I'm home but that been planned for months. Now to pull this off I basically have start cooking the moment I get discharged.

I don't mind hosting or something with maybe a potluck dinner but it was basically assumed I would be hosting (without asking me) and everyone has been invited. And now I have to cook. So now I have to drive around this week and try to precook for the holiday and do another deep clean because I dam sure can't do it once I'm released instead of relaxing like i planned. Yes my SIL will be here to cook and help. But she supposed to help me with the baby not prepping for the holiday.

It would have been nice if they asked me if I wanted to host instead of assuming I would just because I said it would be inconvenient for us to go out. I'm still baffled on how my house became the destination (without talking to me about) all because I told people our family wouldn't be traveling this holiday. I get the sentiment behind it, maybe bring the holiday to me. I see the good, but dam did they not see the bad of me being 6 days post-partum. Hosting 30 people is not my idea of relaxtion and focusing on my baby and I. Even my husband is a little upset by it. When he started talking to me about it and realized that no one had told of the plans he was angry. When he figured out that they weren't bringing dinner but expected us to cook he got even angrier.

I love my family, I really do. They don't do anything with malicious intent. I know them enough to know they think they are helping and it's taken all kind of power for me not snap on them.

Anyone else having holiday problems

UPDATE: My husband and i had sat down and talked. Apparently we need to work on our communication. They been talking to him about this since last month and he assumed that the plans they were discussing with him I had already approved and they had talked to me about it. So he really didn't understand why l was so upset and stressed at first when I brought it up to him. Thinking I had already worked it out with the family. Now that he knows the situation he is one royally pissed off man. He told them under no circumstances am i going to cook or do anything and anyone who is sick is basically not allowed to come. He put a lock on both our bedroom and the nursery so I can lock myself away without people bothering me. He even put my recliner and TV in the nursery and made up a special knock/password so I can let him in. (God I love this silly man of mine).

So we are still having family over, but just a selected few. My in-laws quickly jumped on board and will be cooking for us here at the house and apologized to us for assuming we had any say in the holiday plans. Apparently the elders in our family just decided and spread the word without discussing it with either me nor my hubby. Thinking to help and include us. Again trying to be helpful but not really thinking it through. All-in-all it's just going to be maybe 10 people here, I got a safe zone, and I'm relaxing. And my personal favorite I'm not giving out my recipes for them to cook. They just have to live without my pies and dressing lol. Petty of me but.....yup. lol