Im sick of it. I beg him, i bribe him nothing works. I was in tears asking (more like begging) him to clean up a little bit while i took the kids out.

"Please! Just the dishes and living room. I will vacuum when i get home, please!"

He said no to the dishes and "fine" to picking up the livingroom last night.

When i got home late last night i started crying when NOTHING was done.

This was just last night, this is a weekly fight the ONLY thing we fight about.

He is home while i work during the day and the kids are at daycare and school, HE SHOULD BE THE ONE CLEANING!

He doesn't care at all he says "dont clean then! I don't care if its clean. So don't clean!"

Or if i bring up the fact that he is home all day he says "then quit your job!".

Iv seriously contemplated leaving him over this but that is so childish and just plain stupid, right?

He cooks every night (and leaves a huge mess for me to clean after), he helps with the kids for the most part (9 year and 6 months) BUT i hate coming home to a dirty house when iv been working all day. He has endless excuses of why he doesn't clean while im at work. Some days i dont even want to come home because im sure the house stinks and its embarrassing and gross. I clean as much as i can but i want to spend time with my kids when i get off work and the 6 month old is glued to my hip most days also im just extremely exhausted. So i clean on the weekends mostly.

We came to a compromise (if you can call it that) i still wasn't happy this morning. He is going to take the kids out for a few hours so i can clean. This still doesn't seem far to me.

I can keep the mess contained for the most part when i clean on the weekends but

How do other working moms do it?

How do you get your older kids involved in house chores when the rest of us dont even want to clean?

What does your cleaning scedul look like at home? And how do you get it all done?

The bedrooms need picking up, The dishes need to be washed, the garbage need taken out, the bathrooms need cleaned, the carpets need vacuumed, the kitchen needs cleaning, the laundry..forget about it(thats a whole different story)

Just seems so impassable.

We need help. Lots of it.

Please be kind.