Baby shower only for first time moms??😭

I'm so irritated, I'm only 8 weeks but my family was discussing what in needed for baby and I told them i wanted to wait until my baby shower. Then they all started yelling at me telling me that they are only for first time moms. What can I not feel special and have a baby shower this time? Especially since my mom and great aunt ruined my first one bickering and yelling back and fourth the whole time. I'll throw my own baby shower and they can either come or not come doesn't make a difference to me. I'm just sad about it, may be my hormones though😂