strip clubs
My boyfriend just turned 18. His friends mentioned taking him to the strip club. I was there, and he made it obvious to them that I wouldn't be on board with it and I "wouldn't let" him go. He also stated that, no, he didn't even want to go. But he said that very quietly, and hesitant. No one really heard him. He also told me when we were talking one on one, that he didn't even want to go.
When we were talking one on one I said , I'm sorry, but no. I don't feel comfortable with it. I said please no strip club. I asked him several times and I said no several times.
The whole night when I had been telling him no strip club, I didn't say it in a serious manner, because I expected him to understand that I wasn't comfortable with it and that no, I didn't want him going. And clearly he understood that when he had told his friends that I "wouldn't let" him go.
He was walking me to the car and I told him to have fun with his friends for the rest of the night, and to be safe, and no strip club. He said, "It's tradition." And I told him no. And he said, "So what, it's not like I'm having sex with them." And he added on that, "I wouldn't have a problem with you going to a male strip club."
And to you guys it seems like, oh he's cool with it. No, that's not the case. Because he does this all the time. Him saying he wouldn't have a problem with it is basically saying, "I want to go but Im just saying you can go so that you don't bitch at me but when you actually want to go Ill throw my own little bitch fit."
And we discontinued the convo right there since we were getting close to his brother and I didn't want to argue about that in front of him.
Am I in the wrong? I can understand that some of you find it okay, that he isn't cheating. And no I don't believe it is cheating but I don't feel okay with it and I do believe that if you're uncomfortable with something your partner should at least listen, and compromise, and in this case I really do think there is no 'compromise', so he should just not go, out of respect for me.
What would you guys do ?
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