friendship

Vivian
Please give me advice on getting over a friendship. This is the 2nd time in the last 4 years (or so) where I have lost someone super close to me. And I feel Like, it's me..
I get too attached too soon, but I realize that. Without spilling too much, the girl and I had been friends for about 5.5 years. We were extremely close. Something happened about face book & rather than talk to me about how she was offended, she just ignored me for months. 
Fast forward to now, and it's clear; after we had a talk & both told eachother how we feel & that we (both) want to remain friends; we have barely talked. And when we do, it's me initiating the conversation.
This hurts me to no end, especially since our husbands remain close. How do I move on? What do I do? The last time I kind of went on a destructive path & drank a lot & my (now) husband, ended up calling me out & I had a reality check.
Please help me. This is so hard, it's all I think about 😢