There's this man I have been hooking up with for almost a year. He's amazing, the sex is mind blowing, and I find myself thinking about him more and more as time passes. When this first began, I was not looking for anything; I had just gotten out of a serious relationship that left me broken. However, this past year hooking up with J has been really helpful. He's much older than I am, he's mature and sexy as hell. Problem is, he has never asked me out to dinner, movies, drinks etc. or anything of that sort. We have only stayed in at his place. For awhile I was completely fine with it and may even have been the one to have initiated our (now) routine of "just staying in." I know what you're thinking, we are only friends with benefits, right? I know, I know. My question is, how do I let him know I'm interested in more than what we are currently? He has no clue I am crushing on him to this extent...when I am there, I play this super cool chick who is okay with the way things are, when truthfully, I think I want more. It's scary to even write that on here. After what I have been through, it's so hard to trust in love again. J means something to me and though I'm still trying to find out exactly how much that 'something' is, I'm curious to see what his thoughts are of me, too. What do you all think? Any helpful tips or kind thoughts on how to "start over?"