Does being bipolar justify emotional abuse? I don't get it

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Idk what it is but I seem to attract bipolar guys and my ex was emotionally abusive (all the time) because of it and now the guy I'm hooking up with says he's bipolar but idk, he's usually a great guy (despite being emotionally unavailable) but he will occasionally all of a sudden switch and start being an asshole and I confronted him about it, told him i don't want to deal with him with he's being a dick to me for no reason and his reply was 'I'm bipolar, idk, if I'm in that mood then I'm in that mood, I can't change it'.

Is that a thing? I know they switch in and out of mood but does that justify being emotionally abusive because they 'can't control it'? How do you deal with bipolar people?

I feel like I have to walk on eggshells around them just in case I trigger them into being that way.

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Has been actually been diagnosed as bipolor by a professional or is he just saying that?

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As an actual diagnosed bipolar person i can tell you that's not how it is. Ofco you can't control the moods but you can ABSOLUTELY control being an asshole. He's using it as an excuse to not control himself, do not let that fly.

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Ya I don't think it justifies anything. I am bipolar. I have the occasional outburst but I always feel badly about it and apologize. Sometimes it's hard to control, but meds help sometimes and dedication to understanding your disorder. I can usually tell what to look for and how to move past that moment or day. I would never tell someone "I'm bipolar, what do you expect". Take responsibility for your actions. Having a mental disorder is not an excuse to be mean whenever you want and having something to blame it on.

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I'm diagnosed bipolar and I'm not an asshole to my boyfriend. When I get in those moods for no reason I simply tell him and I ask him to leave me alone and he does until I'm me again. But it does sound like your new man is just being an asshole. Don't let that slide girl. He can't use "I'm bipolar" as a crutch.

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If a person is bipolar certain things will trigger the emotional switch up. There are things that will always trigger it. Then sometimes it can be little things that don't set them of normally but with a build up of them over time it can set them off. I have a brother and a son who are bipolar. He should not use bipolar as an excuse to being an ass. There is medication that can help if is bad enough or even just therapy based treatment. My son is in a therapy based treatment that is trying to help him learn to control his reactions better. 
If this guy really cares for you and you him maybe suggest that he talk to someone about his bipolar to get it more under control. He he refuses to get help for his illness then he is just using it as an excuse to be an asshole and may not truly be bipolar.

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I don't think that justifies it; I'm bipolar myself & it's almost offensive to say that it's an excuse for abuse. (hey, that rhymed) at the end of the day, he's being abusive and saying he can't do anything about it?? 😕

Does being bipolar justify emotional abuse? I don't get it

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