My fiancé's mom is such a joke! She never encouraged his goals, she basically let him run around doing whatever he wanted (making messes that kinda thing) and she's doing it now with her youngest (7year old) he doesn't know how to clean up after himself at all cause she's never taught him those expectations. He leaves his boxers around the bathroom, can't even get his own food or drink he's incredibly spoiled. And I don't want her around my child at all! Idk how to explain this to my fiancé without causing a fight cause I'm sure he disagrees with some of my parents parenting style and could possibly feel he doesn't want our child around them either. But I grew up with responsibility consequences and respect.