sex advice

Hey heyyyyyy 
I'm in a long term relationship and in a sex rut. We do the same positions and it's always fast and hard. 
I'm into hard sex but after a while I wanna feel 'loved' & sometimes I enjoy when it's long and not just a couple of minutes. I feel like it was like that the first months we started having sex.... now after 3 years like just bang bang and done 😩
Do y'all have any advice??? New things to try? Save my orgasms 😂😩