Husband, best friend & money

My best friend suggested the other day that we go out to eat & to see a movie, but I politely refused because I don't have much extra money right now and what I have I would rather spend to baby stuff as I am 33 weeks pregnant. She told me to ask my husband to give me some money, but I said that I would rather not do that since he is already paying pretty much everything and I don't want him to pay for my amusements too. She got kind of angry and sent me a long message ranting about how my husband needs to start thinking about us as a family since we have a baby on the way and that in a family all money should be our money, not just his or mine... And she added to the end that in her family "things are a done a little bit different". Maybe she was just disappointed that I didn't go and maybe my pregnancy hormones are affecting how I feel but her words made me so miserable!

I mean, my husband is the most loving and responsible and caring man I know. He's constantly going out of his way to take care of me and I appreciate him so much. I quit ny part-time job when I got pregnant and since then I haven't had much money, he's been paying all our bills, mortgage, food, electricity, water... And on top of that, he takes me out to eat at least once a month and pays everything.  He's been doing all the big purchases for baby too, I only buy little stuff like diapers and clothes. Our situation will change in January as I start getting my maternity benefits but until then it is what it is.

My friend seems to think that my husband is some kind of scum that doesn't do anything for our family, even though she knows our situation well. She speaks to me like I'm a little girl who doesn't know anything about family life and whose husband is taking advantage of her. She gave birth four months ago and suddenly she's an expert at everything.

I feel so angry and sad, I know I'm doing the right thing for us but her way of thinking made me feel all confused. I know that her opinion shouldn't matter that much but she's still my best friend... 😳