So my boyfriend was just telling me how unsatisfied he feels with our sex life. He started out talking about how he doesn't feel he does enough when we have sex, which I agreed to, until recently, I would be doing more oral on him and I would be on top the whole time and doing positions where I'm doing all the work and he gets to lie there and enjoy.

The conversation then progressed into a more argument about how I'm basically getting lazy. We can have sex for almost an hour, he'll make me cum multiple times and by the time he's down, I'm drained and tired. He'll want to go again, but half the time I just want to relax or go to sleep. I tried telling him, that I do have a high libido by then I'm tired from the whole day, from waking up early, from work, from bussing and walking to and from work. And it's only now my cycles starting to get back to normal after months. He thinks it's all excuses.

I am pretty lazy but at the same time, while he gets up early for work, he's driving and washing cars most of the day. I'm running around a store cleaning and dealing with customers, lifting too heavy boxes most of the day, only getting 30 minutes to sit and relax before getting back to that routine and even more so now that it's the holiday season.

The more I type the more it sounds like I am being selfish, but I do try to stay awake, but I'm not a night owl like he is. I'm willing to compromise, but when my bodies relaxed and tired I tend to drift off.

I don't know what to do. Right now it's more me causing this problem it feels.