Is it bad that I don't ever want to have a boy?

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At first, I wanted a boy. I realized it was because my husband wanted a son. We found out she is a girl, and we were overjoyed. As I started to shop for her, think of names for her, and prepare for her, I started noticing the huge differences between boys and girls. I thought about familial ties. For instance, my parents get preference for baby sitting and visits simply because I am their daughter, and I am also the mother of this baby, and I feel more comfortable with them. I'm not sure how I'd feel being the future MIL in that situation. I don't mean it maliciously, it's just that I can never be as close to my MIL and my husband's family as I am to my own. Also, I have noticed that male children are considerably less well behaved in general than female children. Research also shows that male children are also more likely to sustain serious injuries during childhood due to recklessness, and that scares me to no end. I read about that in a human growth and development book for a class. I don't want to have to deal with that. Yes, it is true that these are generalizations, but all I have is my own observations and studies to go on. I am having a girl, so I am not too worried right now, but I plan on having more children in the future, so I want to be mentally prepared for anything.
My questions are:
-Did any of you feel the same way, and then go on to have a son?
-Did you experience gender disappointment?
-How long did it take you to recover from that disappointment?
Also, here are some preemptive qualifiers, as I feel like people will take this post the wrong way. NO, I am not attacking you or the fact you had a son. YES, I understand that girls come with their own set of challenges. I just feel more prepared for those challenges.

Ty: Thank you for responding. It makes me feel better. I guess I am just over thinking things, but I have a tendency to do that. I really didn't think about the fact that boys have a different, protective attachment to their mothers. That does sound nice.

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Boys and Girls r different!!! But u putting to much into this.. Wait until u have that boy u going to be singing a different tune!!! Boys r amazing loving and very protective over there Mom's!!!!!

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I think you are totally over-analyzing this. First of all, unless you do selective IVF, it's a toss up for what you are having.

Secondly, it's my personal belief that God gives you very specific children that you need in your family. You aren't just having a girl/boy, you are having a person with specific personality traits that is exactly who your family needs. Also,  just because you are having a boy doesn't mean all of those things you mentioned. I am SO close to my MIL- we are like best friends. I cherish that relationship. She sees my son all the time and so does my mom.

I think being grateful for what you are given is the key and not over thinking things too much. You could have a hellion little girl and a precious sweet little boy or vice versa. As a personal anecdote, I freaking adore my son and I am such a sucker when it comes to him. 💙

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I had a girl and now I am having my second girl. I never wanted a boy. Even now, I prefer to have a girl. But before we found out what we are having, I realized I don't even care as long as I get to hold this baby in my arms knowing that he or she is safe, healthy, and loved. I loved each of my babies from the first second I found out I was having a baby, and I know I would feel this exact same way if I would have a boy.

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I personally think you are being ridiculous. I have all nephews and I'm the mom of two girls. 1. My brothers kids and mine are well behaved because they were trained from infancy to be well behaved. This has nothing to do with their gender. 2. My nephews are way more laid back than my daughters. They were the reason I thought this kid thing would be a breeze. Which of course it wasn't. Because my girls shockingly have their own personalities and didn't come out with the personality of their boy cousins. 3. I see my brothers kids and feel close to them. A little less now since they are teenagers and have their own lives. But when they were little I saw them all the time. My nephews LOVE my mother to pieces. Most children do though. They aren't any less close to her because she's their grandmother on their father's side. 4. I get gender disappointment. I was disappointed when I was told I was having a girl. I wanted boys. Little boys just like my nephew. Instead I got girls. And guess what I wouldn't trade them for the world. Despite them not turning out as chill and relaxed as their boy cousins.  Children are a blessing no matter what the gender.

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I have a 2 year old boy and expecting my second :)

While I would love a girl for the maternal reason of having preference over my grandchildren, I also love my son more than anything. It does play on my mind that he will have a wife who might see me as the horrible MIL but I also know that not all girls get on well with their mums and boys tend to be mummies boys for a looooong time.

My son prefers me over his father and I love that bond we have. Girls usually prefer their dads and mums with girls don't get to experience the same type of bond we have.

As for behaviour, boys are little terrors while they're young but EVERYONE always says they're easier when they're older! Which I agree with. They're less stressful and less to worry about, like them falling pregnant at 13 years old and having moody hormonal teenagers in the house 😂

I loveee my boys and wouldn't trade them for a girl ever (I have 3 sisters and have experiences all types throughout my growing up. I know what girls are like)

But I do hope that my 3rd will be a girl (though I wouldn't be disappointed with 3 boys who will look after me, have the mother/son bond with, and love me more than anything either)

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You are way over thinking it...Each child is different. There are plenty of male children who are more well behaved than female children. Little girls can be straight up brats.  Be happy for your little girl. But I promise you if you have a boy he will be your little prince and you will adore him because he is yours! I was in the opposite boat. My first child was a boy and it's hard for me to imagine what being mom to a girl will be like. But one thing I know for sure is that I already love both of my kids and will adore them for the unique individual they are.

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When I found out I was having a boy, I panicked a bit. I grew up in an all girl household as my father died when I was young. It was always my mum, sister and me. I had no male cousins really either. My husband on the other hand is surrounded by boys and has been since day dot.

But after a week or so, I began to consider the benefits. He will pass on our name, I won't have to deal with a mini-me in teenage years, he has plenty of friends his own age within his family due to my SIL having 2 young children, I have plenty of people to call on for advice, this will be completely new to me.

Also while girl might be generally be better behaved, my older sister has a 7 year old who is so full on she scared me about the thought of having a girl like her.

I now love the idea of having a boy and can't wait for him to arrive.

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I was a little disappointed when I had my son almost two years ago, but he's amazing and so cute. Loves giving hugs and kisses and he's so fun. 
I didn't find out that he was a boy before giving birth to him and this baby is the same. I'm a little nervous that I'll be really disappointed if this ones a boy too because I really want a girl (I have an amazing relationship with my mom). My husband and I are open to having another baby in a few years to try for a girl if this ones a boy but I'm scared that I may end up with 3 boys! My mom and dad both have 3 brothers each so I know it's totally possible and I'm nervous that it'll happen to me and I'll be sad. I have a niece who is 4 months old but they just doesn't feel the same...

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Exact same way!!! I'm beyond girly. I had my girl and was sooo happy. I prayed she wasn't a boy when I found out because she was not planned and I'm the girliest girl there is. I love fashion and style and girl stuff in general. When we found out about our second the entire time I was beyond excited for it to be another girl. It's all I wanted. I wanted two girls and I even had people say to me I don't know what you would do with a boy lol. Your too much of a girl. My fiancé hates sports and doesn't like girly things much. But he would have loved to have a son. I am beyond grateful we are having another girl because I just couldn't picture myself with a little boy. However. For some odd reason when we found out it was another girl the entire time I was excited and thenshe said girl and I was kind of sad... I'm not sure why. Maybe because I wanted to experience both. But I was sad for a couple days then got over it. This is also it for us just two. Fiancé is fine without a son. We were just meant to have two girls.

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Hi :)
I had a different fear. I was raised in a complete matriarchy and I was afraid that I won't know how to properly raise a son. 
My issue was regarding those societal constraints that we put on boys and girls and while I girl could be taught everything from car repairs to singing and sewing, I am yet to find an environment welcoming enough of a boy who knows just as much. 
To my relief, we found that I'm having a girl. Don't get me wrong - I know how to take care of a child and how to keep him/her healthy but intrinsic differences (and they do exist) between girls and boys would have been a huge obstacle for me. 
I am sure that my husband would have rooted for a boy and I fully understand why (he comes from a different culture), but after so many losses, we are simply happy to be expecting a child.

Is it bad that I don't ever want to have a boy?

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