Is it bad that I don't ever want to have a boy?
At first, I wanted a boy. I realized it was because my husband wanted a son. We found out she is a girl, and we were overjoyed. As I started to shop for her, think of names for her, and prepare for her, I started noticing the huge differences between boys and girls. I thought about familial ties. For instance, my parents get preference for baby sitting and visits simply because I am their daughter, and I am also the mother of this baby, and I feel more comfortable with them. I'm not sure how I'd feel being the future MIL in that situation. I don't mean it maliciously, it's just that I can never be as close to my MIL and my husband's family as I am to my own. Also, I have noticed that male children are considerably less well behaved in general than female children. Research also shows that male children are also more likely to sustain serious injuries during childhood due to recklessness, and that scares me to no end. I read about that in a human growth and development book for a class. I don't want to have to deal with that. Yes, it is true that these are generalizations, but all I have is my own observations and studies to go on. I am having a girl, so I am not too worried right now, but I plan on having more children in the future, so I want to be mentally prepared for anything.
My questions are:
-Did any of you feel the same way, and then go on to have a son?
-Did you experience gender disappointment?
-How long did it take you to recover from that disappointment?
Also, here are some preemptive qualifiers, as I feel like people will take this post the wrong way. NO, I am not attacking you or the fact you had a son. YES, I understand that girls come with their own set of challenges. I just feel more prepared for those challenges.
Ty: Thank you for responding. It makes me feel better. I guess I am just over thinking things, but I have a tendency to do that. I really didn't think about the fact that boys have a different, protective attachment to their mothers. That does sound nice.
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