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First of all, I'm so sorry for you loss 😞Secondly, as a mother of a stillborn, I want to tell you... don't try to shield others from your loss and therefore your pain. I've learned that sometimes, you have to take care of yourself first. That means allowing yourself to feel the pain, and not trying to push it aside for the benefit of others. I lost a lot of both family and friends when my daughter died, because they couldn't handle the pain. Their pain, my pain... whatever you want to call it. I learned I'd rather be without those people. Losing your child is a pain no one can understand unless they've been there. They might not understand. But that's ok. I know Christmas is not just another day, but don't worry about "ruining" anyone's day. It won't be easy for you either way, babe. Anyway: again, I'm so sorry for your loss. Please take care and try to enjoy your holiday and the new year, but take care of yourself 💕