Painful sex

So I started having sex later than the typical women and I honestly can't get used to it. ITS JUST SO PAINFUL. I ALWAYS tear. Lube irritate me (this slight burning sensation) and condoms are not nice but I work with them as I don't want to use any other birth control method. I haven't done it in MONTHS because my boyfriend and I broke up... but now I'm seeing someone else. Can anyone PLEASE give me some TIPS on how to survive my next encounter. I'm pretty sure I'm virgin tight right now 😪😓😰