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I have been with my husband 9 years & we have 2 girls. I feel really incomplete i want another child and know that one more i will be happy and content. Ive spoke with my husband about this and he is certain he doesnt want anymore. I dont no what to do its not right for me to force him to have anymore children but im driving my self nuts wanting another one. Its all i think about what should i do?

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No, no, no, no and no! This is not this simple. I see a lot of patients with marital issues because one wanted more children and the other didn't and one person, usually the one who wants the kids, overreacts and issues ultimatums. This is not something you just break up a family over, it's also not something you force on someone. There is a deeper, bigger picture here and you'd be doing a huge disservice to your family and marriage to make it so simplified that it's come down to three choices on an opinion poll.

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Are you seriously going to break up your family just because your husband doesn't want to have another baby? That's sounds very absurd to me. Consider everything he does for you and what kind of a man he is in general. If you have a very or mostly  happy marriage and this is your only issue then consider yourself very very lucky. It took me years to convince my husband that we should start trying for a baby. And we have been trying for the past two years and he is being as patient as he can be. We took a couple months off from trying because he felt pressured and I didn't pressure him and give him any ultimatums. I just give him some space and then we worked it out and are back to trying. Seriously think of all he has done and think of the kids you have currently. You are truly blessed.

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Get a puppy

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A child doesn't make  you happier.  What is the feeling you are missing that having another child will bring you? Because thst child will grow up, like your girls and then what? Another? Happiness comes from within

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How does having 1 more child necessarily make you feel more complete?
Do you understand youre already taking away from or discrediting the children that you do have by saying that?

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When you get done trying to decide the fate of your family through a poll with a bunch of strangers who think it is funny to just click any answer, you should get a flower and play he loves me he loves me not to double check your decision. I agree with the commeters. You have bigger issues you need to address and another kid wont fix it.

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Could not have said it better.

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