Why are people so singlephobic?

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This is something I've really started to notice: people seem really prejudiced against being single. Everyone assumes you'll have a partner at some point, and pity you if you are alone (like you might not be happy as you are or like the non romantic/sexual relationships in your life aren't valid). I've gotten odd looks for eating alone in a restaurant (most benign thing ever), and have been considered weird for not having relationships be my priority and - quelle horrure! - thinking I'm fine as I am.

Less personal, I've noticed that there's not a lot of positive representations of single people. True, sometimes they're the cool girl or guy, but they always seem to try to not be single. If you don't and you're a woman, you end up the 'crazy cat lady' or you are somehow deficient. If you're a guy, you're secretly gay or some sort of freakish criminal (or just really ugly).

What is so wrong with being alone and happy? In fact, being ok and feeling whole on your own leads to the best relationships because you're not settling. Not to mention, that's the most harmless thing you could do!

Rant over.

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As valid as this is, let's not add isms to random words. Or equate random shit to predjudice or discrimination. People already can't take isms and discrimination seriously.

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Man I hated that shit when I was single. I was intentionally single for years and people acted like I had the plague. Especially once I crossed 25. The pity's the worst.

If I hadn't completely randomly met my partner, I'm 90% sure I'd still be single today. Once we got together I I kept getting dumbass congratulations and hearing "finally".

It's ok though really, because I remember all the awesome shit I got to during my single years, and remind myself that most people making a big deal out of it locked themselves into terrible relationships really young.

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I used to hate this shit. I actually encourage people to be single instead of being in useless or unstable relationships. 
Before I met my husband (who was my first serious relationship) my step brother literally accused me of being a lesbian because I never dated anyone. Sorry I want to wait until I meet the right guy and I don't just date for the fun of it? 
Now I'm married and he's single so he can go fuck himself 😂 
Be single and enjoy yourself! There's absolutely nothing wrong with it at all!

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I completely agree with you. Just wait until u get 40 and ppl find out that u have never been married or do t have any children.

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Because most society base happiness on finding a mate and reproduction, it's a left over from a time when most of us died before 30. Though logically we should have slowed our population growth down a few generations ago.

Just because we can think logically doesn't mean we use that gift. So thus we're over populated and those who live a single life are dismissed as silly or a medical issue.

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Because people think that your validity is determined by what others think about you. Have a bf? He must like you, he must think you're a good person, you must be a good person. Don't have a boyfriend? Well, no boys like you, so you must not be a good person. That's at least how I've experienced it. I've had people tell me before "don't do that, don't wear that etc...boys don't like it". So my only conclusion is that how worthy or valid I am is determined by bots, not myself. And that's bullshit.

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Truly it's sad that people would just. Some people don't want a relationship. Though I am in a relationship I enjoy going to the movie by myself or eating at a restaurant alone. You keep doing you and ignore the assholes. As long as you aren't harming yourself and others I don't care what you do. Best of luck ✨

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You are quite right about people judging you if you are single and over a certain age (40+ in US, Europe, 30+ if you are in India/China). Social norms and culture play a big part in this. But I think there's an evolutionary reason to this. Having a partner not only expands your social circle but also randomly exposes you to people you would never have met. Of course if you make a decent living, you could get this on your own but having someone guide you through new people is definitely a big bonus and makes one's life easier(sort off)

Why are people so singlephobic?

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