So I've been with my SO 8 years, ttc for 4, had 4 miscarriages, and am currently 23+4 pregnant.

Now, we had both agreed early early on that we weren't to keen on marriage, (his parents broke up after 30 years of marriage due to cheating, and my mother liked to get married to fix her relationships. She's on #17 now.)

But as it get closer to our dd he has been talking about marriage more and more, asking how I'd respond to certain proposals, (hun, right now, if you hid a ring in a cupcake, I'd eat it), what type of engagement rings, and wedding bands I'd like, where I'd like a ceremony preformed, and other questions that have never been asked. Not once.

Well, after he asked if I would be open to being married while pregnant I finally asked him what's going on.

He said, because we are not married, he doesn't have many rights to his baby. He won't be able to sigh birth certificate, or decide what shots or medications it will get, (I have an allergy to preservatives in certain shots, so it will get all shots, just spaced out to monitor reactions) and other medical and legal rights.

So he wants to be married to get more rights.

Has anyone ever delt with a shift this so sudden? It would be fine if he just changed his mind, but it's like he's having a mid life crisis.