HELP ME PLEASE

i can only orgasm with a vibrator on my clit. i cant orgasm vaginaly no matter how hard i try it just ends up being sore and no pleasure, i think i'm doing something  wrong but idk, i'm a virgin and so is my friend but she can orgasm really hard when she's fingering herself, i'm scared that i'll never be able to be pleasured during sex, if i can't even do it on my own, how do i do it?