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Adri • Tue, Jan 03

So tomorrow I'm going to a sixers game with my BF after work. There's 4 members of my family & we only have 3 cars so someone is usually short a car. So my dad asked me what my plan was tomorrow & I told him I was driving to work & then after my BF was going to pick me up & we were going to take the train downtown for the game then take the train back after & I would drive home. So then my dad started to say that my brother might need the car. He is still off from school this week & has nothing he NEEDS to do. So I asked my brother & he had nothing he needed the car for. So I told my dad & he was like well what if mom & I both need to be somewhere tomorrow night & I was like then there would still be a car left over. So he said I could have the car which was annoying to begin with bc every time I have nothing to do the 3 of them take the cars & leave me at home without worrying if I need the car for anything but bc it's my brother they're all concerned he'll need the car.

So then like half an hour later my dad comes up to my room & he's like you should have just accepted your brother needed the car you didn't need to question him about it. So I said what I said before about them never being concerned about me needing a car when I'm home alone. So my dad said fine but I could tell he was really annoyed so I asked him what his deal was & he started to give me a lecture about me & my BF in a relationship & he's not in that relationship & he shouldn't have to drive me anywhere bc he's not in the relationship. That made me really mad bc it literally made no sense bc I was driving myself everywhere I needed to be so I flipped out at my dad bc he was being so unfair. He tried to make these bogus excuses. & he said that I'm never home without a car & I reminded him that 2 weeks ago I had plans but the 3 of them needed a car & they were like sucks figure something else out.

So then he felt really bad & he apologized & I've always fought a lot with my parents especially last summer we got in a really bad fight. So over the summer I told them if they kept trying to control every aspect of my life I was going to cut them out of my life after I graduated college. So then tonight my dad was telling me he feels really bad about fighting with my tonight & he really just wants the best for me & he told me he's worried that after a few years I'm just going to stop coming around & they'll never see me anymore.

I feel so shitty. When I said that I just wanted to make the point that I'm my own person & they can't just treat me however they want. Ik my dad always wants the best for me I just think his execution is a little poor sometimes. I just feel so bad & I don't know what to do & I just feel like I messed up my relationship with my parents idk I just have a lot of conflicting emotions rn you know

Sorry for the long post thanks for reading to the end

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