My husband is the happiest he's ever been and I'm the most depressed I've ever been.

And I don't know what to do.... I'm gonna talk to him about it tonight but I'm terrified of the outcome. So let me start. My husband works at a vet clinic and there, he met his best friends. One is about mid 40s, and the other is 18. They're mother and daughter. I babysit the moms two young boys at the clinic every Monday and Tuesday. I hate being controlling and bitchy and I trust my husband so I know there's no infidelity going on. But because they're friends he treats them like they're his guy friends, meaning he jokes around with them, has loads of inside jokes, etc etc. But it's got to the point where he's joking about things like porn and just joking sexually. Not towards them but more like about sex and everything. Once again, I know there's nothing going on between them. But it's getting really uncomfortable for my taste. And I'm beginning to think he's developing feelings for them. Yes, both of them. He's always thinking about them and he'll bring them up a lot and he buys stuff for them a lot too. So anyways, the mom told me that come February, she's going to be getting the boys week on and off. So she asked if we want to move in with her so I can just basically be a nanny. But if we did that, I would never get my alone time with my husband and I would be working my ass off for these kids that aren't even mine. Plus, we've been TTC for a while and that would practically keep us from that now. My husband loves the idea cause he'll basically get to be around them 24/7. But he never thought to ask me how I feel about it. It's almost like he's forgetting about me.. I love him and I don't want to leave or him leave me. But he's so happy and I know once I talk to him, he won't be happy anymore. And I don't want to be the one to make him unhappy because that might just push him to them even more. I'm gonna talk to him regardless, but can someone please just tell me what I need to do? I can't go on like this any longer and I definitely do not want to move in with them. What the hell would you do? Also keep in mind that I'm a very private person and I can't stand confrontation. It gives me anxiety and all I want to do is run away. I know he loves me. But I'm afraid of how he's gonna feel. It just seems like we want different things lately.

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