How to deal with mother in law when pregnant?

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I'm sorry, but for plenty of valid reasons, I simply do not like my mother in law. I try so hard, but I just don't. For one I suffered from severe anxiety when I first started dating my husband. She is the type of person who flat out doesn't believe in anxiety or depression and she told him maybe he needs to stay away from me because I'm mentally unstable and unhealthy. All I needed at the time was support and hearing that made me feel ten times worse. I understand some mothers are just protective, but I'm a huge advocate for mental health awareness so I was incredibly offended by this.

Another example. Years ago on New Year's eve, his parents were going out to dinner, but we decided to just stay in. We were tired and just wanted to relax that year. She proclaimed we were idiots and should be going out. She was very vulgar and loud and I left the room to avoid being visibly upset. She was that rude. I was in the bathroom and she came downstairs to "apologize" to me and when she didn't realize I was in the washroom and couldn't find me, she yelled that I was hiding from her and a baby and I need to grow up. The next day I apologized for causing any trouble.

Our first Christmas living together she threw a fit that my husband didn't agree to stay over at her house for one last Christmas morning before he got married. She threw a fit and just bawled.

Anytime he tries to tell her, she complains I need to stand up for myself or she just cries and guilt trips him. I get being an adult and communicating, but at the same time I don't think it's my responsibility to tell her. If my mom makes a comment out of line regarding my husband, I'm the one who tells her. I don't expect my husband to.

I can only imagine how she will be with the baby. I'm hoping she will be okay, but she's also someone who has stated flat out that she doesn't like babies. She used to discourage us from getting pregnant initially and now at 3 years married, she actually asked me if it was planned. 🙄 she's so frustrating. I realize this is my husbands mother and no one is perfect, but I just don't think she is a nice person. I got along with her fine up until our engagement. Since then we simply don't get along.

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Easy. She doesn't like babies then she doesn't have to see the baby.

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Block block block block. Block on Facebook, block the number, and anything else

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Just ignore her, let your husband visit her coz she is mom but you limit the visits to maybe twice a month and don't let her upset you!

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My MIL is band from my house. She's not even allowed to call. My husband supports my decision, but there are WAY too many long stories  on why. The last draw was when she sent an email to my husband saying that I was not going to be able to handle raising 4 kids (my last 2 are twins) and that I was going to have a mental break down. When I confronted her, she said it was about her son, not me (the twins are his first). I blew up and said that's not how you talk to your own son! After that, no more. My hubby is ok with it. I'd discuss it with your husband on what to do.

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I think she's the mentally unstable one...

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So sorry you are going they this I feel your pain try and stay strong 
Have you discussed it with your husband

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Hmmmm.... maybe you should have a sit down with her and tell her how you feel. Not with hubby around just you. See what happens. If the disrespect continues than I would definitely get hubby involved. Good luck & congrats on the pregnancy! :)

How to deal with mother in law when pregnant?

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