Ok back story.... back when I was dating my husband and meet his family his sister and I had an ok relationship I guess you can say. We used to go visit her and her husband at the time and play with her son. Anyways things got bad between her husband and her and they got a divorce in 2015. So she was looking for a place to stay and my husband at the time was staying with his grandad and I suggested that my husband move out with his sister and nephew. So  me and my husband spent countless days visiting apartments and comparing prices etc .. . So I suggested some apartments on a nice side of town that is in budget and so they ended up getting that apartment in Oct. 2015 for one year. First move in day, I help my husband get some stuff into the apartment and him and his friends got the heavy stuff, I even helped his sister carry most of her bags. His sister didn't stay at the apartment for a couple of days because she was waiting on her new bed set to come in, finally when she got it in she asked us to HELP her put the bed together, she sat back the WHOLE time and was watching us while she was on the phone looking at social media or whatever and criticizing me and my husband for calling each other "babe" and "honey" and "sweet cheeks". And I kept my mouth shut cause I am trying to be a good women of God and not cause any issues over petty stuff so I let it go. Now keep in mind I was not leaving with them I just would come over frequently and occasionally staying over. As months go on and me and my husband continued to date his sister became more crazy with me . Once we stopped by a gas station to get some drinks and snacks for the movies and it was my husband, his nephew and his sister and myself all in the car. So I stayed in the car with his nephew while his sister and him went in the gas station. My husband came out first to the car and handed me my drink and snacks and then his sister came out after 2 minutes and got in the car all mad and started arguing with my husband about why he left her in the gas station. I mean like really arguing with him she was like, " if I was your girlfriend you wouldn't have left me in the gas station " and my husband obviously stuck up for me and replied back saying, " yeah I wouldn't leave my girlfriend soon to be wife in the gas station store because she is my wife you are my sister I waited for you outside in tthe car like usual why are you making a deal out of nothing" . So she got mad and we didn't go to the movies, when we got back to the apartment she stormed in the room with her son and slammed the door. Once again I was quiet because I do not like conflict. My husband apologized to me for having to see that and offered to still take me to the movies but I was mostly concerned about his sister because I felt like maybe she felt like she was being replaced in her brothers life and I have a brother too so I know how that feels like and I know my husband cares about his family he likes a peaceful family so my job as his wife is to make sure he gets what he wants even though I did not start the argument I can at least fix it ,that's why I suggested we just watch some tv till his sister is ready to talk about what happened. She eventually came out and we talked about it and everything was good. So I thought.......... Once we were all sitting in the dining room of the apartment and his sister randomly ask my husband what happened to your two female friends (FYI : one of them tired to sleep with him while me and him were together so he stopped talking to her and the other one was trying to get information about him to go tell his old friends so they could talk shit about him) . And my husband told her, " I've been stopped talking to them, what are you talking about " and his sister said ," oh why I thought you liked one of them" (keep in mind I'm STILL in the room) and my husband was like ," hell no I would never date them they are not as amazing as my wife " and his sister said , " well you should have dated one of them they are pretty, light skinned with nice hair " and walked out the room. My husband once again defended me and really got into an argument with her I mean a real argument like she got in my husbands face and kept telling him to hit her so she can call the cops and my husband wanted to hit her so BAD but he didn't. I pulled him into his room and he just was so frustrated that he punched into the wall and left a dent and shed a couple of tears which was the tip of the iceberg for me because I had never seen my husband cry till that point and so I knew this really hurts him cause his a tough guy and doesn't ever cry I mean even at funerals no tears. So when I saw how upset he got I really REALLY made me MAD that his own sister would get him to this point like I could never do that to my brother . So he than apologized for having me in a situation like that and how disrespectful that was of her to say that because I am always nice to her and even when he gets mad at her he clams down because of me. But that's when I knew for a FACT his sister was really crazy. Fast-forward some and now it's 5 months before the lease is up and she's started dating this dude and long story short he used her. He lived with them for free cause she paid his stuff, gave him free food and sex. He got his ass whooped by her ex-husband because he found out he was sleeping in the same room as his son. Than he almost got his ass whopped again cause he tried to talk to me and sleep with me and my husband set me him straight and he stopped looking at me. And I guess he got mad so 2 months before the lease is up the dude talks my husbands sister into stop paying for rent because my husband and his sister are the only two names on the lease. So they end up getting evicted because she stopped paying for everything cause the lights was also in my husbands name. It was crazy and so luckily my husband grandad agreed to co sign for my husband next apartment which we leave in now which is honestly better than the place he shared with his sister, also my husband paid off the remaining light bill that his sister left us with which had gone up to $700 which is A HELL OF A LOT FOR 2 bed room. And she ended moving to the ghetto with that dude and one month later the dude took the car she bought him and left. Gone. 💨Now me and my husband are married she is trying to talk to us again and honestly I feel like I just have to love her form a distance cause she really is crazy like I'm not a conflict person every time she said something crazy out of her mouth to me I stayed quiet and my husband stood up for me but now since we are really married and trying to move forward in life and have our own family I can't see myself dealing with her. This past Christmas I said hi and stuff and she keeps trying to like have convo and I just excuse myself to the restroom and avoid talking to her when I come out because I can not be fake like I forgive her and I wish the best but I can't see myself talking to her like a sister or anything like that. And my husband feels the same way too but lately his mom has been telling us to talk to her but she never really apologize for anything she did or said so like I can't be fake and smiling and talking to her when I don't feel like it. If she would call me and my husband and apologize for everything I could talk to her again but she acts like she never did anything and I can't pretend like all that stuff didn't happen. This is literally like an introduction to all the stuff she did and said to me, I just can't write it all cause my hands are tired. But I don't know if I should be the one to reach out or wait on her to reach out and apologize🤔 what do y'all think ? And like no one else I know has problems with there sister -in- laws so if you have a crazy sister- in- law tell me about It so I won't feel so alone.