tips on loosing virginity with not so painful

Hey guys I so I technically lost my virginity to my amazing boyfriend and I know it's going to hurt I don't take pain well AT ALL but besides it being wet or using lubes what are some tips because his birthday is coming up in 2 weeks and I want to do something very romantic for him because he don't care or pressure me about sex at all but it just hurt so bad that we don't do it for long before she see I'm just in too much pain and want to stop and cuddle help me please ladies 😩