how can I politely tell my best friend she's hurting my feelings?!

Question

My best friend has been by my side since we were 12! She lives out of state and I speak with her daily. My only frustration is that she unknowingly seems to compare my pregnancy with my first child to her friend "Megan" she made while in her new town that I don't even know.

Having the same gender baby as her (girls), it's been non stop comparisons.. "yeah that's what happened to Megan, Megan went thru similar issues, you and Megan are on the same track..." blah blah blah

At first it didn't bother me but now.. I get very easily frustrated and annoyed bc 1) every pregnancy is different and 2) I don't even know this girl and frankly I don't really care...

I'm mentioned before I don't really know her and I don't think she means in intentionally, but I'm getting frustrated bc it's now almost everyday comparisons and i want to tell her that i don't like it but I'm not sure how to do it politely and upsetting friendship boundaries... any suggestions? TIA

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If she herself doesn't have kids then it's just her way of talking about them. Just comparing friends and hoping she might give good advice based off what worked with her other friend or something just bc she doesn't have experience to relate with you or Megan. I'm sorry it's annoying but i think that's all it is.

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It sounds like she's just doing her best to relate to what you're going through, especially if she doesn't have kids herself.  When a person finds them self in a conversation that they don't have much to contribute to they tend to reach for anything relevant to say.

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Yeah I don't think she is doing it on purpose to hurt you or annoy you but it is hard to be the non pregnant friend that always hears what the pregnant friends have to say so the only way to be a part of the conversation is to share the experiences of someone else, other wise she would have nothing to say to you. Know she is being supportive by listening to you and she wants to say something back, I don't think she is comparing you just because. Have some patience with her :) she means well :)

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Are u calling her and telling her about the baby or is she asking? U could be hurting her feelings and not knowing it as well. Try finding other things to talk about unless she brings up the baby. I know our worlds get completely swept up and turned around by the baby maybe she's just trying to stay relevant well your world is completely changing from hers.

how can I politely tell my best friend she's hurting my feelings?!

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