Ok so I've never been in a bridal party. I have three best friends one of them is getting married, my other is the maid of honor. She made a Facebook page for ideas for the bachelorette party not many people spoke up except me and one other girl. The maid of honor totally dismissed it and was like "yea that sounds like fun but we could do Boston and this and that". I found the same strip show closer to all of us one month earlier (3 of the girls in the party have babies mine will only be 4 months old) so obviously we want to be closer and not go all the way to Boston. After several attempts to tell the maid of honor this she told me it is what it is and we're going to Boston. Average cost is 210$ not including dinner and drinks. Is that a lot?! Also when I told her others felt the same and wanted to be closer she lost it on me and said this isn't new we all knew there would be money involved and it's a half a day one time. She wants to leave at 1pm and be home around midnight. (Again the same show is Available one month prior and only 45 minutes away!) she also told me I shouldn't be the maid of honor then and don't be a part of it then if I couldn't do this. Am I the douche because I'm the only one who spoke up? Or is she for asking everyone's opinion and then just saying well it is what it is I planned it.  Thanks for the help!