How to tell my boyfriend I'm depressed?

Question

I'm planning on going to the doctor this week, probably to get a prescription for antidepressants. I've been suffering from a general low mood, lack of motivation, fatigue and being easily overwhelmed/anxious for a while now. I've had episodes of it before and it runs in my family.

My boyfriend and I are both university students. He's in engineering, has a full courseload and works very hard. I recently dropped out of the engineering program because it wasn't to my interests and am now in general studies. Because I have been overwhelmed lately I was planning on dropping a course so I only have 4 instead of 5 this semester. I just feel lazy doing this because he works so hard in his schooling. I'm worried he'll think I just don't want to do it or something, or that I'm not depressed because I'm usually cheery around him (he's one of the only things that make me happy). Or that I'll appear dumb for it. This is all probably ridiculous because he's a super supportive person and I honestly think he'll just want what's best for me. I just don't know how to bring it up. We've been together for 5 months.

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I know exactly how that is...I got super depressed over the summer but my boyfriend never saw it because he is what makes me happy...anyway one day I couldn't control it and just started crying for no reason so when he asked what's wrong I just told him I'm depressed...I'm sure there's a better way but just getting it out isn't too hard once it's done, is all I'm saying. I'm sure he'll be understanding and do what he can.

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You just bring it up. Tell him how you're feeling. He may offer some sound advice. Depression is a state of mind though. Everybody has ups and downs. You just have to fight harder to figure life out. See if he can help you. He shouldn't be the only thing that makes you happy. If he is, then you have some soul searching to do. What will happen if you two break up ? You'll lose every momentum you have to live. That's not healthy. Nobody else can make you happy. That's an illusion to what's going on. He's just serving as a coping mechanism. It's very important to love yourself first before loving anybody else because it's unfair to them. Tell him how you feel overwhelmed and tell him your plans. And don't compare your life to his. You are on your own path and you have to do what's best for you. If you can't handle 5 classes, that's ok. You're finding out who you are. And once you find yourself things will fall into place if you look at all life has to offer.

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Just let him know how you feel and what he can do to help men always stress out over us when we get emotional because they don't know how to fix it. I had gone through a really tough time and hid it from my husband and when he found out he got really upset I didn't tell him because (his words) "we are married and your my wife and I'm here to help you, you shouldn't have to hide this" I bet your BF would much rather know your going through a tough time then finding out you had to carry this burden alone

How to tell my boyfriend I'm depressed?

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