My husband really wants to do anal. In all honestly it scares me a little. He's been with other women but he's the only guy I've ever been with. we have tried several times but it's always very painful for me. Even a finger hurts really bad. I get so tense and I know that makes it worse. He also says I have a unusually small butt hole. Anyway any advice you have on making it easier would be greatly appreciated. I'd like to do it atleast once for him.