SHOULD I ALWAYS TELL MY HUSBAND IM OVULATING BEFORE HAVING SEX?

Question

So I'm more than ready to have a baby however my hubby isn't completely ready. He wants to wait until he's making more money. I totally understand him but it's still hard for me. 
When we talk on this topic he says "babe I want a baby but I just want to be making good money before we have one but if it happens I'll be more than happy". Honestly though it won't "just happen" I'm tracking my cycle like crazy I know exactly when I ovulate so as long as I'm doing that it won't happen until we actually are TTC.
I've talked to some women in my life and I told them how much I want a baby but hubby isn't completely ready and they just keep telling how he's never gonna be fully ready and he'll be ready when he finds out I'm pregnant. 
We had a pregnancy scare once and I was freaking out because I didn't want him to stress about money now since he said that's the only reason he doesn't want a baby now but he was so calm about it and even teared up he said he was more than happy. 
Idk should I just not tell him when my ovulation is or should I just stop tracking my ovulation and "let it happen".

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Having a baby is so much better when you don't have to worry about money. When you can both take time off for the first few weeks to adjust, and then you can stay home for as long as you want. No stress about rent/mortgage, food, bills, ect. It's amazing when you can go to the store and pick out all those cute baby clothes and not have to get what you get in a bag of mixed hand me downs. You can splurge on your dream nursery instead of buying the cheapest crib sheets you can find. You can buy that $300 mamaroo even though you'll never want to put them down, and your baby might hate it anyways. And finally, you'll be able to put money aside for their college, to give them the best future possible so they don't have to struggle to get ahead and have to debate between kids and comfortable living like you guys had to. If you're not ready financially, it's best to wait. I know it's hard when you want a baby like nothing else, but you have time! So much time.

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If your husband isn't ready but would be ok if it just happened I would stop tracking. If you're going to be tracking you need to be honest with him and tell him you know when you're most fertile. Don't try to get pregnant on purpose if he has told you he's not ready to officially try.

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Ask him, "If we're gonna leave it up to chance... should I stop tracking?"

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Stop tracking. If he's not onboard he may feel tricked. I told my husband & he says he still feels "tricked". Tell him once & see how he feels about having unprotected sex.

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I also disagree with the women who've told you "he'll never be ready." My husband wasn't ready for a long time, then he started getting "warmer," so to speak - pointing out cute babies to me, pointing out little kids doing activities as we passed by - then one day he was totally, 100% ready. We waited 7 years after we got married to start trying, because that was when we were both ready and it was a good time in our lives to have a baby. I am really, really glad we waited until we were both on board. I would recommend talking to your husband and asking him this question directly. Does he want you to actively try to prevent pregnancy by telling him when you're ovulating, or would he rather you just stop tracking and you guys see what happens? It seems like this is a question only he could provide the best answer to.

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My husband was definitely ready for a baby so I would disagree with the statement that he will never be ready until you're pregnant..if you stop tracking and it happens that's one thing but if you keep tracking and just fail to mention it to your husbad then that's where it becomes a little shady-like you're tricking him into thinking it "just happened".

SHOULD I ALWAYS TELL MY HUSBAND IM OVULATING BEFORE HAVING SEX?

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