Spoiling your spouse

What are you thoughts on spoiling your spouse?

I am CONSTANTLY.. like literally constantly ridiculed for "spoiling" my husband. Which, I don't even consider it spoiling. I am just taking care of him.

I don't work, he works 45 hours a week, and occasionally more with his 'as needed' job. He is a hard working man, he takes care of me financially, so why can't I take care of his other needs??

Everyday he comes home from work to a clean house and supper on the table. He doesn't expect it so he's not taking advantage of me. But I do it because I enjoy it. I love taking care of him. I cannot tell you how many people have told me how I'm going to regret taking care of him and making his food everyday. His mother is the worst for this and she doesn't let up on it.

When they are over and I fix his plate and wait for him to eat his mother says "gosh you just spoil him so much don't you " " he's a big boy he can make his own plate" and then when I wait for him to eat.. the comments start again.

He never has to clean house, the only thing I ask of him is to take the trash out.

Is this wrong for me to take care of him? Am I going over board on taking care of him? I mean I genuinely ENJOY it and don't see it as a chore at all.

* I should also say his mom and dad are miserable together but don't believe in divorce. They don't talk to each other. They don't even kiss goodnight. They never say I love you. Nothing. I'd say this is why she ridicules me.. but others who do are in happy loving relationships.

Do you spoil your spouse ?? Do you get negative comments?

For the one who said I shouldn't wait for him to eat.. he's gone at work all day, dinner time is where we can sit down together and enjoy conversation and eat our meal together. I would get lonely real quick if I ate before he came home and then he ate at the table alone.