So I feel like my fiancé is in control of everything. We both work our butts off and I work doubles often. I feel like I'm working towards nothing. We've always had a joint bank account. I'm only given a credit card to use....and he has the savings card that's linked to our bank account. The only way for me to get physical cash is asking him for it. We are building our first home and I know we can't go spurlging money but there's things I need like a new pair of walking shoes....haven't had a new par in 3 years. Or go get a nice outfit from a regular store instead of the thrift store. Like don't get me wrong I know the importance of saving specially after taking on debt but I want to treat myself sometimes and I never can - like ever! Yet he spends $200/month on alcohol.