Is this normal?

Question

I'm okay being single but when I get initimately involve with someone and being in a relationship, I start to lose myself. When the guy starts being distant, I start to get emotionally overwhelmed over something I know I can't control.

Has anyone experienced this? 
Am I just not ready for a relationship? 
Am I keep dating the wrong guys?

Answer

It is not superhealthy to lose yourself like that and become completely consumed by another person. This is the beginning of codependence. You are relying too much on another person for your happiness. You must always hold onto YOU. Don't forget who you are and what you like. Don't forget to take care of you. Don't forget to have your own life. Hang out with your friends, do things on your own, don't make him your life right away. If you don't continue to have your own life when you start dating someone, it can be seen as clingy and cause him to pull away from you. And then you become emotionally overwhelmed because you made them the center of your universe. You relied on them for your happiness. The only person you should never rely on for your happiness, is you. Happiness can only come from within you. Anything outside of you can only enhance the happiness that is within you.

Answer

Don't get intimately involved, go super slow and build you while they're building them. Together build and eventually any dependence will be mutual and they won't be distant. Being intimate does fun things to the brain, literally, chemically. Hold back longer, just have fun outside of that for a while.

Answer

How are the other elements in your life? I've found that having a rewarding career, hobbies I love, and good friends have helped buffer. I don't want to give all those things up because they're part of who I am. So the dude has to fit in along with those things and be okay and supportive of the fact those other life elements are important.

Is this normal?

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