ANY MILITARY WIVES/GF??

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QUICK VENT: SO MY S/O IS LEAVING FOR BASIC ON FRIDAY..MEANING I'LL BE HAVING MY BABY GIRL WITHOUT HIM CRAZY PART IS IM SCHEDULED FOR A C-SECTION ON THE 7TH (WISH HE COULD HOLD OFF UNTIL SHES BORN) AND OF COURSE HE'S GOING TO BE GONE FOR AWHILE.😢😢 IM TRYING NOT TO STRESS TOO MUCH BUT ITS HARD BC THIS IS THE TIME I NEED HIM THE MOST..HAS ANYONE ELSE DEALT WITH THIS BEFORE OR GOING THROUGH THE SAME THING?? WHAT COULD I POSSIBLY DO TO EASY THE STRESS

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My husband is in the military and while I haven't dealt with this a gf of mine has and they actually flew him home from deployment to be able to be there for his daughters birth. Have you/he spoken to his command? They usually make exceptions for this stuff!

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My husband is Airforce... he went to BMT in the beginning of November and is still away for tech school. We also have a 1 year old so it's been interesting but at least now we can speak every day ... basic was difficult cause they can have their phones and you can only write them via letter which takes forever . Keep your head up it's gonna be tough but also be very proud of him I know this isn't an ideal situation . My husband spoke with his MTLs last week and he will be able to come home the weekend after my c section . He's sad he's missing the actual birth but I'll take what I can get lol . This is us (:

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Military wife here. I hate to say it but as an Army wife things happen like this all the time. Since you are his girlfriend and not his wife I would suggest you allow him to handle it. If they pull him from class, no big deal but his date for leaving my be a couple of months away, as basic is 9 weeks, he will start in the next class. Or he may go to another training location then the one he's assigned to go to now. Which would further push his AIT class back and he may miss things like the baby first sitting up, steps, sounds, and other monumental milestones. That's a choice you two should make together.

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Have him talk to his recruiters they can typically get a date like a week later. If he doesn't want to talk to them, you can. My husband and I are both in. The military will try everything to make sure he's there for your baby's birth.

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My husband is an officer in the Army Reserves. It seems like they're going to be flexible with his drill weekends depending on when I have the baby. Generally, I think they're willing to work with soldiers on big life events, such as a baby. Encourage him to ask!!

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I definitely agree have him talk to the recruiters and they can change his dates.  Good luck to you.

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Have him talk to his recruiters. I literally just gave brith two days ago and her father was on FaceTime through the whole thing. If he can't switch and he must go.... make sure you have a back up plan. As In people who you would want in your room while you give birth. I know it's not ideal but it's going to be worth it at the end. You will have your beautiful baby and either look forward to one hell of an homecoming or deal with him leaving you right after you just give birth. Emotions will run high but take a moment to breathe and think of the bigger picture. You got this.

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It's a 4 day difference, you can't schedule an earlier c-section?

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Can you change your c-section for before he leaves?

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