Taking care of the house

I'm not sure how you ladies can take care of your LO and the house. My LO is 3 months now and I still haven't figured out a routine to take care of her and clean. When she's awake she needs me and when she's asleep she needs me too. (She will wake up if I put her down) and it just breaks my heart whenever she's upset so I cannot let her cry it out or self soothe.