What should I do? It always seems like I'm in the mood to have sex or get something going on. But my boyfriend is never in the mood. It seems like I'm always the one starting things, and he's told me a couple times that he wasn't in the mood but did it because I wanted it, and he didn't want to hurt my feelings. Now whenever I'm in the mood, I ask him if we can have some fun tonight, so that I'm not getting myself hyped And hot just to get shot down, but always it's either maybe, we'll see or not tonight, and sometimes it's maybe in the morning. He's only instigated sex maybe 3 times, in all the 9 months we have been dating. I'm glad that I have a Boyfriend who cares more about me than just for sex, but I'm also a sexual person, and like to get it on with my SO, and it's never the same as doing it yourself.