need girl advice

My and my bf broke up a week ago. It was because he didn't have feelings anymore we had been together for over a year. He still cares cos he cuddled me in bed for over an hour after we broke up and then we ended up having sex. We said about being friends with benefits so that's what we are doing. I want to have him back but idk how to as whenever I talk about these things he goes really distant cos we broke up before and we're friends with benefits and ended up getting back together and he is so paranoid that will happen again cos he doesn't wanna go back on his word again. But I just want him so how do I do this? Do I act distant so that he'll miss me or what? Please help a sad girl out ☹️️