My parents will be celebrating 45 years of marriage this June. In July my husband and I will be married 5 years. I grew up in the church and the pastor that married always says "the best is yet to come "... I can count on one hand the number of times my husband and I have had sex in the past 5 years. It's been difficult and I've thought of leaving him a million times. He always says I'm too fat and I'm not attractive. I've yoyoed a lot worked out and stopped. He uses sex as a bargaining chip. Until 3 weeks ago when we were driving and he said "you tricked me." And I said "yeah well you tricked me too. When we first started dating it was mind blowing sex for the first 4 months and then nothing. For 18more months I waited and nothing but I still married you. I thought it would change but it hasn't." The next day he asked for a divorce. I've had the papers drawn up for months. I walked into my closet took them out and handed them to him. Explained that I'd keep the dogs and my clothes but he could have everything else. He started to cry and left. That night he came home we talked for a bit and then he did the most amazing thing. He made love to me and every single day since then. He has said nothing but positive things and whenever we have not agreed on something he has sat down talked it through and come up with a compromise. I'm not saying it's all fixed but I'm beyond thrilled at the progress we are making. He's actually dating me again and finding creative ways to show he still loves me. I'm not so naive as to think we're fixed with a few weeks of sex but I am hopeful that we can continue to build on our communication. I guess what the pastor says is true. It does get greater later. I encourage anyone who is struggling to start praying each day that God opens your lines of communication with your spouse and takes the roadblocks from you both. I started praying this on December 19th and by January 3rd He answered my prayer. The best is yet to come 😁