Why did i go through with the pregnancy

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I'm really trying to figure out why i went through with this. I should have gotten an abortion when i had the chance.  Now my life is fucked up.  I love my son but God should have given someone else a baby.

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Praying for you 😞 have you looked into adoption?

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.. adoption?

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Adoption is a wonderful thing. There's so many loving couples that would love to adopt a small child.

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Ive recently had a baby boy hes 6wks old this week. Ive got a 12 year age gap so its like being a new mum all over again except this time around im older as well. Yes its very challenging having sleepless nights, feeds, winding and constant washing what with a house to keep as well. Yes i lost my freedom pass to do what i want and as for lye ins and going straight out the door its out of question. Yes i dont look my best most the time as i get sick over my shoulder. I get peed on sometimes whilst changing him hes a boy and does fountains as my girl calls it lol. Its a massive change but i wouldnt have it any other way. I simply adapt to having my son and organise things and prioritise. 
Why has it fucked up your life?? You can work things out surely?? This little one looks at your eyes and knows your mummy he/she needs you and you need to be strong. You dont mean the above maybe your stressed we all have hard days when baby cries non stop from colick/wind and your exhausted with no break but take ten minutes and think seriously about what youve said....you can work things out !!

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I haven't looked into it but ive given it some thought.  I feel guilty thinking about it.  But if i tried im sure his father would get custody instead. Im not sure which situation would be worse. 😔

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😇😇😇🙏🙏lord give this mom the strength that I no she have to raise this precious gift that u have given her
God bless you mommy

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As someone who has adopted a child I don't think you should feel the least bit guilty about it. You are trying to figure out what is best for your child, and yourself. If you're not ready to be a mother right now, it's okay to think about placing your child with someone who is. My son's birth mother said it was the best decision she ever made. It's not like your child would be put in an orphanage, without a lot of love or a family. Adoption is so different and is full of love. Good luck. I know this is a difficult decision. I hope you can find peace in the thing that will be the best for both of you.

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Don't do anything rash yet. You may be having those feelings because of postpartum depression. It's common. But you don't want to do something you may regret once you're in treatment. Is there anyone who can take care of the baby while you seek treatment? A sister, friend, or your mom? Anyone?

Postpartum depression can cause these feelings. Often it causes us to miss our life before. This can be projected onto the baby, convincing us if we just didn't have the baby we'd be okay again. That isn't necessarily true. Ppd is as much chemical and hormonal as it is environmental. If there's any chance you don't want to give your baby up for adoption, doing so could make your ppd worse. I cannot stress this enough.

Get treatment. Now. Before you do anything else. Get treatment. If you absolutely can't take care of the baby in the meantime, find family or friends who can.

If it does come down to adoption, most states also have safe surrender laws. You can surrender them, no questions asked.

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Find someone to talk to about post partum depression!!! It's very real and can skew your emotions and thoughts. As someone who experienced similar thoughts, please talk to someone who specializes in PPD.
If, after counseling, you still feel the same...adoption is an amazing option.

Why did i go through with the pregnancy

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