OK so a little back story.. my husband and I have known each other for 10 years.. we met in middle school dated off and on from 7th grade till the day we got married August 27th 2016... In May of 2015 I found out I was expecting we had just gotten back together from a 6 month separation he had just had ACL surgery and we were forced to move in with his parents (yes I did DNA yes she is his) in August of 2015 I was incredibly unhappy and terrified so I took off while he was gone one day and had my sister take me up to Michigan with her to live with my parents. He was obviously pissed and devastated he didn't really speak to me until around 2 weeks before I gave birth... We got back together January 13th 2016 had our baby January 26th I continued to live in Michigan until June I came down with the baby to visit every weekend. We decided to get married because we had planned on it anyway but got rushed into it so the baby and I could have health insurance I was just gonna get the medical card but Journi and I didn't qualify. We have been married for 6 months almost and we haven't had sex since December he doesn't talk to me unless it pertains to food, money or bills.... He doesn't touch me it's like he has forgotten how we tried to have sex like a month ago and it was like he had been touching someone else for awhile... He wasn't being as gentle as I prefer and he acted like he had no idea how to turn me on.. and whenever he was trying to perform oral sex he was spreading my lips so far apart I felt like he was trying to tear them off. We have sexual problems communication problems and attention problems... We don't have an active sex life, he acts like it's not manly to talk and he gives me 0 attention every morning and night he gets up gets food grabs the Kindle or Xbox remote and looks at whatever (usually gun videos ( and doesn't pay attention to anything else. I have mentioned these issues everyday for 3 months.. I finally got him to talk with me and he said that he realized last week how unfair he was and stuff and then he said a one of his gun videos made by nutnfancy helped him to realize it and I was instantly pissed like me saying something for a long time now vs nutnfancys video of a whole 5 minutes that's what clicks but not straight from the horse's mouth?! The video was how your daughter is supposed to see you treat your wife. Anyways his master plan is to come home and not turn on the TV for an hour so we can talk I told him if this master plan of his doesn't work I wanted to go to counseling and he didn't like that idea I told him if he couldn't go to counseling I wanted a divorce. Was I too harsh?